New Play!

We've had some lovely new play experiences last week, starting with a visit to Warrington's new Play & Sensory Center. It's a purpose-built soft play center for disabled children and adults, which opened in the summer of 2012 after a lot of hard work by disability organisations in the town. We haven't visited before so when we got a letter from Bee's nursery a few weeks ago with a permission slip for a trip I was very excited! Happily the visit fell on a Wednesday so Foz was able to come with us. He misses so much with having to work so when the opportunity arises for him to be included I'm really pleased.

Last Wednesday morning was similar to lots of others recently: bitterly cold, strong wind and snow flurries. We'd booked on to the coach for the trip as Bee loved the recent journey to Underwater Street and doesn't get to travel on buses very often, it's almost an adventure in itself! She was very excited about this trip in particular as K, Bee's favourite teacher, was accompanying us. She'd been frantically using her hand sign for K all morning, wanting reassurances that she would be there.

After meeting at nursery we boarded the coach for the 10-minute journey to the play center. Bee loves to look at the window and is especially watchful for buses, even though all we mainly see are cars, houses and trees! Weirdly enough (considering where we live) there is a boat in a driveway on our journey to nursery from home, Bee always loves pointing that out. Thankfully by the time we arrived at our destination the snow had stopped and the sun was doing it's best to come out. No matter to us though, we were off inside for lots of climbing, sliding, jumping and fun!

Warrington Play and Sensory Center was wonderful! Bee has always loved soft play but has needed a lot of support moving around as she's not big enough to climb the structures herself and doesn't have the strength due to her hypotonia. I also find that Bee is best suited to the 'under 3's' section as she very gentle, can't yet run or jump yet we still get dirty looks from other parents are Bee is clearly over 3 years old. Yet she can't manage the big frame, both in terms of her ability and because the older children running and being rough is too much for her. We stopped attending soft play as it became too stressful. Warrington Play & Sensory Center is built around easy access and everything is at a height she can climb unaided. It's perfect for Bee, everything she needs, heights she can manage and no judgement from the other parents for using equipment that might be too 'young' for her. Even so Bee still wants an adult with her at all times and isn't yet moving off to play on her own or with other children. Generally she's happy to have myself or her dad by her side but for this trip only 'K' would do. Bee has a habit of forming strong attachments to certain adults and will stick like glue to that adult whenever she's around that. So far that's always been family members, namely my mum, Foz's mum and my Auntie Jane. 'K' has been the first person outside of family that Bee's become this attached too. 'K' was brilliant and happy to spend much of her time with Bee, even though I felt bad that it meant taking her away from sharing her attention with the other children. Still, they all had parents/carers there as well as the rest of the nursery staff so I suppose I shouldn't feel too bad.

The session was over far too quickly and, even though she was extremely tired, Bee did not want to leave. We had to deal with a small tantrum, which dissipated as soon as she realised we'd be getting back on the bus. We really enjoyed the new soft play center and would definitely chose there again over any other soft play locally. The small things, like Bee being able to climb unaided, make such a difference to the overall experience. It enables her to become more confident in her own abilities and not rely on us so much for support.

That afternoon we took a trip to the Trafford Center for a bit of a mooch around and a nice meal together. Bee loves to shop, it's one of her favourite pastimes and sometimes I worry I'm creating a monster. When she's a teenager and demanding the latest designer handbag or shoes I'm sure I'll look back at this time and curse myself. Still, just to see her charging up and down the aisles, helping fill the trolley and interacting with the checkout staff is worth it.

The Trafford Center doesn't really have much that interests us, it's full of fancy shops like Selfridges or brand name clothes shops. The main thing we visit for is Disney. No matter what interests come and go Bee still has a deep and abiding love for Mickey Mouse Clubhouse and especially Minnie.   

Before Bee's birthday last year we'd tried to buy a Minnie car mat (with matching Minnie and Daisy cars) from the Disney shop but sadly they'd sold out and we haven't seen them since. We tried other stores and online, nothing. So I was thrilled when we went in last week and found *just one* on the shelf. It wasn't the Minnie one but the Mickey but Bee loved it just as much. It turns out it was a return and the only one so we snatched it up, there was no way I was missing it a second time! 

Bee was very pleased with her new toy!....

We spent some time sat by one of the large fountains, having a drink and gave Bee some pennies to throw in. She didn't throw so much as gently push them in, she can be a funny thing. This particular fountain shoots a giant jet of water towards the ceiling every few minutes, which Bee loved....from a distance! Every time it happened she would back away from the fountain, scrunching her face up as if the water was coming at her, still with a big smile though!

 After the soft play in the morning, a lot of walking round The Trafford Center in the afternoon along with a meal Bee was exhausted. She began making that steady moan noise that we know means she's ready to give up. She had some cuddles with her daddy while we finished our food then we headed home. It was straight to bed for an early night!

Bee has recently discovered Baby Jake (from CBeebies) and has fallen in love, which we think is an extension of her love for dolls/babies generally. So a few weeks ago during a mooch round Toys'r'Us we bought Bee a Baby Jake board game. We haven't yet started on board games with Bee, they've seemed a little developmentally advanced, not to mention our struggles with Bee's attention span. However this Baby Jake game stated the target age at 3-5 years and the pictures on the box showed a game which looked reasonably easy for her to master and short enough not to become boring.

So one recent afternoon I got it out of the packaging and set it up. Bee was extremely excited and it took a few minutes to calm her before trying to explain how to play. The basic premise is to roll the dice and move your counter to the finish line in order to 'launch' Baby Jake's rocket. Getting Bee to roll the dice was the easy part, trying to explain that she could only roll once each turn was slightly more difficult. Then we couldn't stop her constantly trying to press the button that launched the rocket or picking up the counters to chew on them. Turn-taking is a skill Bee is still acquiring and I think it's going to take a little more practice before we really master the art of board games! 

Colouring Pages!

Now Bee is growing up I love to do crafty things with her and one of our easiest and most frequent is colouring. When Bee was tiny our first forays into wielding a crayon involved a pad I'd gone out and bought 'specially at Mothercare, I'd been so excited at getting Bee started. Sadly for me she really didn't seem interested, crayons were clearly for chewing on, not drawing.

As she grew it became easier to encourage her to scribble with the crayon rather than eat it, although her attention-span was very short. The paper just wasn't holding her interest and, thinking back, it's not surprising. To give her something to focus on I went out and bought some colouring books with large, simple pictures and it became useful for me to focus Bee's attention on individual parts of the picture: "let's colour the dolly's shoes" etc.

Bee has a very short attention span across the board, not just with colouring so I was pleased when the colouring books seemed to improve matters a little. Still, it wasn't enough. I could maybe get 2 or 3 minutes of really focused attention off Bee before she was emptying the crayon box and wandering away from the table, looking for something else to play with. It's important to me that Bee starts to master simple skills like holding a crayon correctly and control techniques. They are things that will become neccessary as she gets older and we don't want her attention problems to prevent her from achieving. 

One day last week inspiration struck. At home we have a digital photo frame that flashes up with a new picture every 5 seconds or so and Bee loves to sit and watch the pictures change, telling me who's on each picture. One morning, while sitting together and watchingt he frame it occured to me that the pictures Bee likes best are of people she knows. She could look at pictures of herself and the people close to her for ages and not get as easily distracted as with other things.

So I got myself on Photoshop and here is the result:

 

I made 5 different ones in total, all with Bee and various combinations of her loved ones. They were easy to photocopy from there to keep her with a constant supply. So far she loves them and we've had great fun colouring Mama's nose in blue and Daddy's nose in green, Grandma's ears in red and Bee's mouth in purple! So far these personal colouring sheets have held Bee's attention for the longest and so far I've got a good ten minutes of colouring out of her before she starts to lose focus, a record!

If anyone would like to know how these are made:

• Open your picture in Photoshop
• Choose 'filter' from the menus at the top
• From there go into 'sketch' and choose 'photocopy'
• This should open a new box where you can change a few levels about to get it looking how you want.
• Save as a JPG and print!

This doesn't work well with all pictures, some are too busy for them to colour out with large white spaces and can be very black so you might need to try a few different ones.

I've noticed since using these that Bee's accuracy seems to be getting better. To the untrained eye it may look like she's just randomly placing scribbles across the page but if you ask her to colour a specific part of the picture you'll find the scribbles are centered on that part. I'm really thrilled with that, it's one small step of progress along the road towards pen-control. These personalised colouring pages have really worked for us so far and I'm going to keep printing different ones so Bee has a constant stream of pictures to keep her interest.